A Muslim is not Anti Polygyny

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

▪️A Muslim is not Anti Polygyny▪️

Our Shaykh, Muhammad ibn Hizaam – may Allaah preserve him – was asked the following question:

? Question:

The questioner says: Some women are overtaken by jealousy when their husbands marry a co-wife, such that when they are reminded about the verse on Polygyny:

{ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَاۤءِ مَثۡنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَۖ}

‘So marry other women of your choice—two, three, or four…’ [Surat An-Nisa’ 3], they begin uttering vile statements?

? Answer:


It’s not appropriate for the Husband to remind his wife of this verse while she is in a state of anger. This may enrage her further and cause her to say inappropriate things. The husband has to take this into account.

Nonetheless, it is not permissible for a woman to say inappropriate things. She must have faith in, and be content with the Sharee’ah of Allaah, the Majestic, Most High. It is impermissible for her to hate, or dislike this practice which Allaah – the Exalted, Most High – has prescribed, unless it is a natural dislike which women tend to have. As far as bearing hatred towards the Sharee’ah, or saying that it’s not appropriate, or that it is unjust; as some women may utter, or statements such as these, this is not permissible. If she utters such statements voluntarily, while she is fully aware and conscious of what she is saying, then she must repent and seek forgiveness, because these are extremely grave statements which will take her out of the fold of Islaam!!! Saying, this is unjust, for example, or the likes. Beware of this, beware!!! Women must be cautious of uttering such statements. She must accept and submit (to Allaah’s decree), and there’s nothing wrong if she demands the rights which Allaah has given to her in that she is dealt with justly, as Allaah, the Almighty and Majestic, says:

{فَإِنۡ خِفۡتُمۡ أَلَّا تَعۡدِلُوا۟ فَوَ ٰ⁠حِدَةً}

‘If you fear that you will not be able to maintain justice, then marry only one.’

[Surat An-Nisa’ 3]

She can counter her husband by mentioning the last part of the Aayah, as if to say to him (when he mentions the aayah on palygamy), ‘finish the Aayah off’, (this is permissible,) as for rejecting the verse completely, this is not permissible.


Translated by:

Abu Ishaq Muhammad Ibn Ahmad Ba-‘Alawi

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