At what age should a child be prevented from mingling with non-mahrams

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

▪️At what age should a child be prevented from mingling with non-mahrams▪️

Our Shaykh, Muhammed ibn Hizaam – may Allaah preserve him – was asked the following question:


What’s the age limit at which boys must be prevented from mingling with [non-mahram] women?

? Answer:

Generally speaking, when a child reaches the age of seven, they attain Tamyeez (discernibility), so its befitting that they are taught to distance themselves from entering upon (non-mahram) women at this age, but they shouldn’t be punished if they fall short at this age until reaching ten the age of ten, because the Prophet ﷺ ordered to separate the beds at the age of ten. So before this, when they are still seven they should be prevented without being punished, until the age of ten, and Allah knows best.

Discernment occurs at the age of seven; it’s at this point when a child is able to describe women, although usually they have no feelings of desire until they reach the age of ten; this is when it starts.

Therefore, this should be instilled in young boys at an early age; such that they are prevented from mingling with [non-mahram] women when they reach seven. If they fall short at this age, there shouldn’t be any punishment or chastising, this is reserved for when they reach the ten; this is when they are punished for it.


Translated by:

Abu ‘Abdirrahman ‘Abdullaah ibn Ahmad Ash-Shingaani

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