What is your advice for the sisters that are living in the west whose parents are not muslim, nor are they married. Because they fear to marry the brothers from here due to their manhaj. Even the salafi’s we hear that they are cheaters and other than this. So, do you advise us to get married first and then make hijrah, or make hijrah first and then get married?
And which country do you advise us to make hijrah to because some of us don’t have families to help us and some countries are harder to stay in than others?
If marriage is possible before making hijrah then this is better.
So if she finds a righteous salafi brother or a brother who has good with him and desires to make hijrah to the land of Islaam and to flee with his religion, then we advise with marriage first and then make hijrah from the lands of disbelief.
Because a woman is really feared for in our time if she leaves as a Muhaajirah travelling by herself then it is feared for her.
So if she is able to get married then she does so, and if she is unable and she fears for herself that she will become trialled, And Allahs ﷻ refuge is sought, and she feels that she will be harmed with something that she will not be able to handle, then she is forced to leave, so she leaves fleeing with her religion and Allah ﷻ will make marriage easy for her to a salafi brother who is in the land that she makes hijrah to.
So don’t stay in the lands of disbelief where she is to be harmed perhaps she may become tested in her religion and perhaps she may even apostate (leave Islaam) and perhaps she does something which is not permissible for her to do. So if she fears for something like this to happen to her, and especially she has mentioned that her parents are not muslim, if they were muslim then we would have advised her stay there and have patience until Allah ﷻ makes it easy for her to get married to a man through her parents, then she leaves with him where ever she wants and wherever he wants. Then she will be under his responsibility and she will not be under the responsibility of her father.
As for the situation which is mentioned in the question, that her parents are not muslim, then we advise that she gets married first then she leaves if she is able, and if she is unable to get married and her parents are disbelievers and she fears for herself fitnah, then if she finds a safe country to make hijrah to then she leaves.
The country of Haramain (Saudi) is good, and perhaps if you leave this place for the weaker women in those countries then this is good for verily it is a good country and there is a lot of good in it. And if she finds another country other than this where she can establish her religion then she leaves, wherever she finds a country where she is able to establish her religion in, then she leaves. Otherwise Saudi is a great country.
So if you advise them for this then they make their intention for hijrah. However, she might be weak just like the rest of those women who are weak and if this is the case then if she stays in her country then she is not sinful InshaAllah if she is weak:
إِلَّا الْمُسْتَضْعَفِينَ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ وَالنِّسَاءِ وَالْوِلْدَانِ لَا يَسْتَطِيعُونَ حِيلَةً وَلَا يَهْتَدُونَ سَبِيلًا
Except the weak ones among men, women and children who cannot devise a plan, nor are they able to direct their way.
[Surat An-Nisa’ 98]
فَأُولَٰئِكَ عَسَى اللَّهُ أَنْ يَعْفُوَ عَنْهُمْ ۚ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ عَفُوًّا غَفُورًا
For these Allah will forgive them, and Allah is Ever Oft Pardoning, Oft-Forgiving.
[Surat An-Nisa’ 99]
So she is not sinful. However, perhaps the affairs may become too heavy upon her in that country and she is not able to establish her religion and she fears for herself, so if she remains steadfast and is patience, then Allah ﷻ will make a way out for her And the women in the time of the prophet ﷺ made hijrah as well.
However the situation now…As you may already know.
Answered by: Shaykh Abu Bilaal Al-Hadhramy – may Allah preserve him
Answered on: 5th Rabee’ul Awwol 1441
Translated by: Abu Huthayfah Saamy Al-hindy